Posted: August 13, 2012 at 3:29 am | Tags: Feminism, gender roles, media, sexism
Not currently being in Australia, I missed most of the furore that a Gen-Y woman caused when she dared accuse an upstanding institution such as the Herald Sun of being sexist and condescending after finishing her internship there. I mean really, who would have thought that the Herald Sun would have been sexist? Oh you mean there are actually people out there who think that “modern business etiquette” actually applies and that “chivalry” is not at all an outdated concept? Please kill me now.
I caught up (a tiny amount) on the story when I read an article published in a Fairfax newspaper, by Natasha Hughes, suggesting that the sexism experienced by Sasha Burden was all in her imagination and really, the men of the Herald Sun were just being polite, as their mothers (because it’s always the mothers) taught them.
Interestingly, this article also quotes Leslie Cannold, but completely fails to understand Cannold’s point.
Basically Burden should not have complained about the way she was treated while interning at the Herald Sun because:
- Good old-fashioned chivalry should make us very happy
- chivalry is about consideration for others
- courtesies are learned behaviours
- it’s lovely that there are gentlemen out there Continue Reading
Posted: October 18, 2010 at 12:50 pm
Dearest Google, love of my life and solver of many of my internet problems. I have something to ask from you. It’s not a big thing, well big two things, and I know that with the combined might and power that you have, that you should be able to solve these two simple problems I have. The first is with your fantastic Gtalk software (Google Talk). Personally I think this piece of software, as a chat client, is brilliant and I don’t share my gtalk contacts with any other chat client, because I love the way gtalk operates, with one small exception. If I remove someone from my contact list, and they don’t remove me from theirs, then you still notify me when they sign into chat.
I don’t actually get why you do this Google. Surely I removed them from my contact list for a reason. Maybe I broke up with them, maybe I had a massive falling out, maybe they assaulted or abused me, and yet you still want to make sure that I know that they’ve just signed online because they’re far too lazy (or vindictive, or controlling, or something else) to remove me from their contact list. Yes I know I can block them, and in the cases where I really never want to speak to the individual again, I have, but where I’ve just lost contact with them, or we were never that good friends anyway, or they’ve moved a long way away and keeping in touch is something I’m not interested in, I shouldn’t have to be notified that they’re online. Afterall, they’re not on my contact list for a reason, and surely that should be enough.
The second issue I have is with your marvellous Google Buzz/Google Reader. I’m combining both of these together, because the issue applies across both systems as they are, for this problem, interlinked. Since you created Google Reader, I’ve loved how I can pool all the blogs and pages that I’m interested in keeping abreast of, in one place. I love how I can look at what my friends, partners and other people of interest also think is fascinating and worth sharing. I love being able to keep everything organised and how I can search for things later when I want to blog about them or find it to win an argument. However, again there is a slight problem. If someone I have blocked from reading or sharing my articles comments on an article that someone I follow has shared, then I’m reintroduced to that individual, regardless of the fact that I have blocked them. Again, I have blocked this person for a reason, and you’re allowing me to read comments that they place on articles that my friends share. Its not fair of me to ask my friends to block this person also for my own peace of mind. I’d love it if you’d put in place something like, “Comment made by blocked user” so I’d understand what my friend was responding to, but did not have the blocked individual in my face.
I have all sorts of good reasons, as does everyone else who blocks people, for blocking people. Having them constantly in my face because members of my social circle are still on speaking terms with them is deeply upsetting. I’d much rather receive less content (in this case comments), or be able to select an option that states, “As well as blocking this user, I wish to block all comments from this user”, for my own safety.
I know you care about me Google. We go back a long way, and I have been enjoying our time together. If you sort out these few things that have been distressing me recently, I’ll be much happier.
Posted: June 12, 2010 at 7:17 pm | Tags: nothing to see here
I’ve had to take a bit of a break from the blog because I’ve at the end of my last semester of my degree (if everything else goes to plan), so I’ve had assignments and exams to do.
I will be back blogging more in July when I will have time, and a life again (YAY!). To keep you interested, here are some topics I intend to blog on:
- Arrogance of religions claiming to be the “one true way”
- Trigger warnings and why they’re important – learning the hard way
- Forgiveness and why you don’t have to forgive
And anything else that takes my fancy.
So yes, I’ll be back blogging in July.
Posted: April 16, 2010 at 6:16 pm
There are times when listening to music or seeing a piece of art that the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end, I get goose bumps and a shiver passes through me.
There are times when experiencing a particular experience, listening to a piece of music, seeing a piece of art that I can’t help myself grin and laugh at the beauty and happiness of it all.
Both these things are touching the divine. Not the divinity of a deity, but where someone has created (perhaps even myself) something that reaches inside me and speaks to me in ways that I cannot verbalise more than I have above. What works for me is not necessarily going to be the same as what works for you. For example, the music that makes me shiver is often
hundreds of years old, acapella choral music – usually in Latin. I know what the words mean, but its never the words that hit me first, its the massed voices and the music. The experiences that make me grin and laugh are things like diving into a body of water and just being surrounded by so much of it.
Why have I chosen to use the word divine? Because I like it, and because it isn’t always associated with a god or theology. The Macquarie Dictionary (go and subscribe – its cheap and Australia’s official dictionary), says that some of the meanings of “divine” are:
* heavenly; celestial.
* of superhuman or surpassing excellence
* (Colloquial) excellent
And as a verb:
* to have perception by intuition or insight
These experiences of mine, the music, the art, the other, they all make my life a better and more excellent place to be. What works for you?